I learnt this after 20 coherent years of sarcasm running through my veins.
In my family and friends circle, I didn’t realize it because all of them viewed it the same way I did, as a form of humor. So most of the times I didn’t realize the people I was hurting. I was always the one who was considered to have the “’tude.”. That baffled me for the longest time. None of my friends could explain it to me because well, they all had it. The few who tried to mumbled apologetically about my tone, the voice, the language usage, saying I intimidated without realizing and that people who didn’t know me would always be a little apprehensive about me. I looked scary. But then the chorus would happen, “”But you’re so not like that. They don’t even know you. Why do you care what they think anyway? “Which was a point so I’d shrug my shoulders and move on with my life.
Today I was watching another team in action. The HOD is excessively sarcastic and highly amusing. He had witty repartees, amusing and was a skilled worker. But I guess others thought different.
She crouched on the floor, tear streaked eyes brimming. A member of his team. She was sobbing to her colleague about putting down her papers, as she couldn’t take his sarcasm. All this time, he thought she was cool. He didn’t even realize that she might take sarcasm as an insult and not in the good spirit everyone did. He was busy being clever, she was getting crushed. For him, it was a collective joke. For her it was humiliation.
Today’s when I understood what might have gone wrong. Today offered me a little bit of an insight to what may have transpired. I spoke to a few friends, some who went through their realization a while ago, some yet to reach it and today is when we realized, we may have hurt people. Unintentionally.
Tonight I might not sleep so well.
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epradee98I understand the feeling and this is something that has been told to me so many times. What I felt was witty and sarcastic was actually hurting others but I never knew. The sarcasm, probably, came as a defence to probably handle a few complexes that I myself had. But while trying to speak up for myself, there are so many who have felt the pain, especially, those near to me because they always would try to hide the fact that they were hurt. Anyway, realisation is the first step; so don't feel too bad about all this, after all, we all stumble and then learn life's lessons.
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